Random fact

This is actually a passage gotten from my test paper. It seems interesting enough to be posted here XD

If you have ever felt the ecstasy of being in love, you will want it again and you will look for it the ways prospectors with gold fever spend a lifetime looking for the lost Dutchman mine. It is an addiction, a spell and a form of hypnosis.

The ecstasy part is that instant rush, the ‘high’, the best part of what it means to be in love. Colours appear brighter, sounds seem more vivid, happiness and optimism are experienced to their fullest degree and life is altogether overflowing with joy.

The agony begins when inevitably, one comes crashing down from this joyous high. Reason returns and one begins to see imperfections in what had been the world’s most perfect person and the world’s most perfect relationship.

Sometimes there is real pain as the romance comes down to earth, when the relationship either adjusts to everyday life as it really is lived on a day-to-day basis, or breaks up. What is worse is when one or both parties are hurt and grieve about the relationship which began so beautifully but ended so bitterly.

How exactly does that mysterious thing we call ‘the click’ or ‘chemistry’ work?

According to psychologists, there are certain necessary ingredients that contribute to a ‘click’. If even one is missing, the click will either not happen or the relationship will be doomed to failure. The four ingredients are timing, vulnerability, parallel process and style.

Timing means that you are ready for a relationship both on a conscious and unconscious level. You are neither too desperate nor too independent – you are ‘just right’ and you are ready. Timing means that you are both ready for a healthy and loving relationship. Sometimes we think we are ready when we are not – maybe we are only ready for a short-term relationship, but not marriage. Sometimes everything else can be in order, but the timing is off. Then the sensible choice would either be to break up or to wait – you cannot rush it.

Vulnerability means risk-taking. It means peeling away some of the outer layers of defences and taking a very real risk – the risk of rejection. At this level, deeply personal feelings or fear and weakness are shared. In this area, the experts warn against too much and too soon. Too much openness and too much sharing of what ought to be extremely private and personal too early in a relationship may be either a sign of desperation on the part of one partner, or an out-and-out seductive ploy.

I'm not sure about parallel process since they aren't stated and the passage is incomplete.